Spent a bit of time recently examining myself and why things have gone the way they have, it's damn hard to look at yourself and be objective, takes a lot of doing really.
As I said in the books thread, there's two which have really re-opened the whole self-examination thing recently, Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me
which is study citation after example after explanation of why and how our brains are wired - cognitive dissonance is the overrulling theme - and the things we tell ourselves to get by. If you ever studied psychology/sociology, there's not much particularly new, but it's presented in such a way that you're just like fuck, they're right. It's a bit depressing, but as long as you don't dwell it should be fine.
The other one is Delusion Damage
- again, it hammers home how much of what we've been told all our lives is wrong. I gave an in-depth analysis in the link, and like I said I'm reluctant to recommend it as the guy is full of himself and somewhat extreme in some views, but for the most part, there's lots of sound stuff in there.
I don't study women and these things for the sake of it, it's all just a lifelong pursuit of self-improvement and awesomeness.